Field Notes: Reflections from the Counseling Office
Field Notes are inspired by the questions, struggles, and moments of insight that emerge in therapy. While every story is anonymous and no client details are ever shared, each article reflects themes that many people experience. My hope is that these reflections help you feel understood, challenged, and encouraged as you pursue healing and growth.
Field Notes: "We Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over, and It Goes Nowhere!"
If you find yourselves having the same argument repeatedly, the problem usually isn't the topic; it's the deeper need underneath it.
How to Tell Your Partner About a Secret Sexual Struggle
Whether you've been struggling with compulsive pornography use, anonymous sexual encounters, online sexual behaviors, or another form of compulsive sexual behavior, you may fear losing the relationship, hurting the person you love, or being judged.
She Found Out: What to Do After Porn Is Discovered
Discovering pornography use in a relationship can feel like a rupture that is sudden, disorienting, and painful.
What I Wish My Clients Knew Before Starting Treatment for Sex Addiction
Starting treatment for Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD) can feel like stepping into the unknown. Most clients arrive carrying more than just the behaviors they want to change.
What Your Porn Preferences Say About Your Inner World
When people think about pornography use, the focus is often on frequency. How much is too much? Is this an addiction? But an equally important and often overlooked question is this,
Why this type?
Healing After Betrayal: What to Expect in Couples Therapy
Therapy after discovering a partner’s sex addiction is tough, but it can also spark healing and a deeper connection.
Healing After Betrayal: How to Respond to Your Partner’s Recovery
Their recovery is their responsibility, not yours.
Healing After Betrayal: Why Your Partner’s Porn or Sexual Behavior Isn’t a Reflection of Your Worth
Your partner’s struggle with compulsive sexual behavior can feel painful. It’s natural to wonder, Am I enough?—but their behavior doesn’t define your worth.
Healing After Betrayal: The Rollercoaster of Discovery
Discovering that your partner has been hiding porn use, sexual behaviors, or compulsive patterns can feel like your entire world has shattered.
Healing After Betrayal: A Guide for Women Reclaiming Safety, Strength, and Self-Trust
Discovering your partner’s struggle with porn or sex addiction can feel overwhelming. The impulse to fix or control is natural, but your first priority is to take care of yourself.